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What do you do when clients are rude?
Posted by on 2018-10-24 at 1:54 PM
I want to bring this up, not that I don’t know what to do but because i am sure we all deal with this differently, and we may learn from one another.
I am kind of fascinated by people who contact me, occasionally, in a very abrupt manner.
for example initial message may be :
– “call me” …and a tel number
– Recently I got: “Make it extremely short/simple I’m down for hypnosis”
– I have also received explicit sexual comments.My main topic/question is Where do you draw the line? I am sure there are all kinds of take on it and I believe they are each right in their own way. We each have our own unique threshold and it is different from person to person.
Here is how I handle it:
My policy is to always keep the door open. But if there is a lack of civility I stop going out of my way to meet that demand. I basically put the ball in their camp. They now have to make the effort to book the session. If they do they are completely and warmly welcomed. There is no resentment. we put the past behind (I know many folks are not good at expressing themselves in writing!). An other reason I lower my efforts is it may show a controlling side of that person and that may very well be a major block in a session, so I may be wasting their time and money. I must say it seem to work very well. It weeds out people who are not serious about QHHT (very few).
…How do you handle it???
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In the 3 years I’ve been doing this, I’ve never had this issue. The only thing I can think of is LOA. You attract the people that match your vibration. Maybe it’s as simple as raising your vibration?
If this were to happen to me, I would chalk it up to the person’s personality and continue with scheduling the session, although if it’s a sexual advance, I would probably suggest they find a different practitioner.
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That may be a good point regarding if a client come across repeatedly as controlling,or not respectful, that it may in fact be a hint as to them being very controlling and unable to let go enough to enter into a session successfully.Also, I try to pay attention to patterns I’m experiencing with others if they’re being repeated, how they make me feel and see if indeed it’s about a lesson I’m actually needing to learn or practicing a life skill for myself.I know I’ve called all sorts of uncomfortable things to myself so I’d get the practice I need to build a certain skill to help me become a better version of myself. Sometimes it’s just about standing up from myself. That’s been a big one for me.Along that line, I’m wondering if perhaps this is about you practicing putting up and maintaining what you feel are acceptable boundaries as to what treatment you’ll accept. Which it seems, you’re doing well at! 😉
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I punch their nose bloody if they are rude 😉
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@DeAnna_Shelton I like that, yes : everything is a positive experience, an opportunity to learn. I actually enjoy these interactions, perhaps because I have a martial art background, and enjoy challenges… As you can see, these example are not threatening at all, it is a very mild level of disrespect, more of a simple lack of good manners or communication skills. But i keep in mind that this opportunity to talk to the light is very sacred and so, though i never judge, I think it is important to keep my practice space filled with light, and that the person coming for a session is there with intent and positive vibration.
Where i draw the line is there I think: intent.
thanks everyone for the feedback!
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If you’re fascinated by these people who are rude, you may be attracting them into your life. Set up boundaries, change your thoughts about who you will accept as your clients and block callers who are sexually explicit. I’m all about love and light but have no tolerance for rude behavior and disrespect.
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Uh-uh…all i wanted to do is share how everyone handles any type of difficult clients so we could share and learn.
…apparently that means I have bad energy, am fascinated by negative people and love conflict.
Ok.
I am sorry we couldn’t share in a more constructive way.
I appreciate your efforts, i know they were sincere.
all the best.
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I recently had an inquiry for free introspective hypnosis session. In her first email she said she was drawn to that. She wrote her reasons for that. It was very strange email, talking about in body, out of body kind of spiritual experiences. I asked her for a call to understand the reason. She emails me back saying I am declining for lack of resonance. It was very abrupt. And I did not understand how she was drawn to me in the first place, just for a free session. I thought it was rude. I just emailed her that I accepted it and sent good luck for her search. After that I removed Free from my listing. <3
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I always have a phone conversation with each client for at least 20-30 minutes before I make an appointment with them. I explain the process and time that is required; the mental mindset that can be helpful ie: meditation, positive attitude, prayer to higher self, guides etc…prior to a session. During this conversation I vet them in terms of their session goals, background and knowledge of Dolores and so forth. If I feel a session is not right for them at this time I advise they delay or seek an alternative practitioner or another form of assistance. If this is the case I email them loads of information about meditation techniques, sources of information about alternative therapies and modalities and anything I can think of that would match their personal objectives that were discussed during the phone call. If they contact me again after I have provided this information then I proceed with an appointment. I haven’t had to do this very often but I have had a couple of cases that were quite bizarre and I felt that this was the best course of action.
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@Sylvie_Bougon where I went with this is that these people could be showing up as a reminder that as a practitioner you’re also allowed to say no to people. I know for me, I forgot that I actually have the choice, too, and I don’t have to blindly help every single person who comes to me.
I offer this to you because I know that has shown up for me – what I mean by this is, I feel compelled to help everyone, and so I will usually do what I can to help. That said, I’ve now had a few experiences where the other person wasn’t a fit for ME. Which led me to (for lack of a better word) suffer throughout all of the interactions (and have less than successful sessions).
I think you’re doing the right thing and if it were me, personally, I would really stick true to me, my values, and also how i feel in my body in those interactions. Then, if it’s all a no, I’d feel comfortable redirecting them to find another practitioner and letting it go.
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Maybe your picture on your website is a bit too sexy? I remember a psychic complaining on Facebook about men who email or call her just to chat or proposition her for sex – and her picture on her site looked like Elvira with red lipstick and cleavage…no wonder she was getting the unwanted attention…But who knows, maybe these horny goats email anybody looking more or less attractive? I am 57, and I never get any mail like that… maybe you can just take it as a compliment, because sooner or later men will stop hitting on you, and this just means you got old.
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Thank you to all who shared their *own* experience with difficult clients.
That is so interesting! I really appreciate it!– And I think my big mistake here was to mention the sexual email I got ; some of you thought I was asking for counselling on that sort of thing. Gah ! no ! : of course I would not allow a session from someone like that! …This was just to show a full range of what I have had. was not looking for counselling here. just sharing experiences.
Thank you especially to @Karuna_Chinchkhede, @Robyn_Summers for sharing their stories in details
and to @Stig_Bertelsen for keeping it light and humorous!Love you all!
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@Sylvie_Bougon keep up the good work. They can’t keep a good woman down! 🙂
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@DeAnna_Shelton I like that, yes : everything is a positive experience, an opportunity to learn. I actually enjoy these interactions, perhaps because I have a martial art background, and enjoy challenges… As you can see, these example are not threatening at all, it is a very mild level of disrespect, more of a simple lack of good manners or communication skills. But i keep in mind that this opportunity to talk to the light is very sacred and so, though i never judge, I think it is important to keep my practice space filled with light, and that the person coming for a session is there with intent and positive vibration.
Where i draw the line is there I think: intent. is it there?
Thanks all for the feed back!
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Thank you to all who shared their *own* experience with difficult clients.
That is so interesting! I really appreciate it!– And I think my big mistake here was to mention the sexual email I got ; some of you thought I was asking for counselling on that sort of thing. Gah ! no! : of course I would not allow a session from someone like that! …This was just to show a full range of what I have had. was not looking for counselling here. just sharing experiences.
Thank you especially to @Karuna_Chinchkhede, @Robyn_Summers for sharing their stories in details
and to @Stig_Bertelsen for keeping it light and humorous!Love you all!
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Thank you to all who shared their *own* experience with difficult clients.
That is so interesting! I really appreciate it!– And I think my big mistake here was to mention the sexual email I got ; some of you thought I was asking for counselling on that sort of thing. Gah ! no! : of course I would not allow a session from someone like that! …This was just to show a full range of what I have had. was not looking for counselling here. just sharing experiences.
Thank you especially to @Karuna_Chinchkhede, @Robyn_Summers for sharing their stories in details
and to @Stig_Bertelsen for keeping it light and humorous!Love you all!
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